A New Focus

This post is trailing my last one fairly quickly, especially when you look at the breaks I had started to take in between posts, but I suppose with me figuring myself out again, I’m bound to have a little more to talk about now.

Last time, I talked about the long distance aspect of our D/s relationship. Now, I’m here to talk about the “together” side of it.

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Long distance D/s… again

Something that’s been coming up as an intriguing, yet extremely complex topic for Rhea and I, is long distance D/s. After having to cut it during my addiction because of the various problems, I really thought about how I missed the added bond that it gave us, and how I’d like it back.

A few days ago, I told Rhea I’d like to reintroduce it to our apart time.

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Crossing the Hump

Here I am, up early at the time of writing this. I’m the only person awake, as Rhea has went to bed just minutes ago. While I’m slightly annoyed at the fact that I’m having a hard time sleeping (it happens semi-often for me), it’s giving me some really good, quiet, alone time to think with my tea. To my surprise, I realized that instead of thinking about something sexual-related, as I would have some time ago, I’m thinking about other things such as my workout goals, techniques to perfect my art, and life itself. That doesn’t mean that I’m not still a sexual person, because I definitely am. It means that I’m no longer consumed by an addiction.

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Being in a D/s relationship, along with a FLR, may seem relatively simple at first glance. Speaking from the submissive partner’s perspective, the role may seem pretty straight forward. You follow the rules set in place by the dominant partner, and you let them lead, hence a female led relationship. To some, that may seem like sitting back and enjoying the ride while the other takes charge.

However, it’s obviously not that simple at all. Actually implementing the roles takes tremendous effort on both ends. Even though submitting requires you to give yourself over to your partner, you have to learn how to balance that and accept taking from them, also.

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My Lovely Rhea

The very moment I read Rhea’s post, I reassured her on the spot. Still, I just wouldn’t feel right if I didn’t post my feelings on the topic. She didn’t ask me to do this, and probably won’t want me to do it, but personally, I think all of the time and effort she’s put into helping me through the addiction deserves more recognition than she’s giving herself.

Besides, it’s about time I’ve updated our readers on my side of the addiction recovery, anyway.

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